Shadows that follow you even in dark

Ahhhhhhh....Gotcha!! Last week, one of my friends asked me, Mama, What is FRIENDSHIP? How to identify good friends? As usual and the only thing I know, I smiled at him and said "Boss, don't know". After that, we went for dinner.


When I thought of blogging and searching for a topic, I saw a facebook post. The post was about friendship. It said that there were different kinds of friends such as real friends, facebook friends, time pass friends and etc...I don't remember now. Now, I'm thinking answers for the question "What is friendship?"

Have you noticed your shadow? If not, notice it today. The size of the shadow changes every time and this is mainly because of environmental situations. Due to intensity of light or climate changes and sometimes it disappears due to barriers or darkness. But everything is ILLUSION. The same thing applies to friendship. Sometimes friends are with you and most of the times, they ain't. The intensity of friendship is a fluctuating one. Sometimes it touches the sky and sometimes beneath the mantle. It's also an ILLUSION. Weird? Confusing? But it's true.

According to me, a friend is one, who accepts you whatever or whoever you are. He/she doesn't care about your background and habit whether you drink or smoke or any other bad habits (important: There are no bad habits). He may or may not tease you. He may or may not ask you how are you? Have you had your food? Have you studied or not? The only thing he needs is 'THE TRUST'.

When I was young, Mr. X said, "AAA is your friend. Why can't you give some advice to him/her?" HELLO!!! How can I give advice to him/her? The reason for not giving advice is I don't want to lose his/her friendship. I know to whom I have to give advice. If I start giving advice to all my friends, I'll end up with 3 or 4 friends. Again Mr. X asked me, "Don't you care about your friends?" Then I said, sir this doesn't mean that I don't care about my friends. I know about him/her very well. His/her attitude, belief, like and dislike. That's the main reason I'm not giving advice. This means, I won't say anything to him/her directly. But, somewhat indirectly.

It's not true that best friends always have to eat, roam, play and study together. Hello, give me a break boss. It's beyond that. Good friends are who can understand other's silence. They don't want to break the harmony. They know when to break silence. They know when to be together. Even though they are far away, there is always a synchronous communication between them. Now comes the main part. There is no ego or arrogance prevailing between the friends. If anyone of the above exists, sorry it's better for them to walk in different direction.

There is a wonderful habit among boys (sorry girls, I don't know about you people). If there is any fight between any two close friends, it will be solved within a day. Want to know how? The other friends along with the two fighting bulls go to the place where you can rejuvenate yourself. When some drops of intoxicant go inside, everything will be alright. It's like an open loop circuit becomes a closed loop circuit. Electrons started flowing. This may seems to be funny. It's happening in most of the places. But it’s very effective.

A good friend is a guy/girl who won't speak something by keeping something in his/her heart. He won't care about what you are? Who you are? Who are all your friends? The only thing he/she cares about is "The Trust".

A friend is one who understands your silence. He/she knows what kind of music has to be played in order to break your silence and  when to play.

Do Not Want To Look Behind The WOLVES Which Are Chasing Me

When someone shouts at us or shouts at someone who is in front of us, 'YOU ARE A COWARD. GO AND DIG YOURSELF'. What do we think? How do we react? Some people try to defend themselves by saying, 'I am not a coward'. Some try to prove themselves as brave by doing something. Some people feel ashamed. Some people as usual have a smile on their faces and move away.

I don't think all people are brave and also all are not coward. Both braveness and cowardliness exist in all the souls roaming below the stratosphere. A person is brave when he/she is surrounded by his/her 'strengths' and coward when he/she is surrounded by his/her 'weaknesses'. Ooops! I deviated a little bit. 

I want to write about the people who smile when others say that they are cowards. Those people are not afraid of fighting. They don't want to fight. Because it's not afraid of being get hurt. It's being afraid of the people around them who might get hurt.


Since they are not turning back and chasing the wolves which are chasing them, they are labelled as cowards. In the fast moving earth which is tilted of about 23.5 degree, no one wants to waste their time, energy and go backward to beat those filthy wolves. They know how to avoid those wolves and run in their highway. Unfortunately sometimes, they get hurt by those wolves.

A few brave people in certain areas argue,"Why don't we stop and chase those wolves?". My opinion is "Yes, you can". But, the thing is, people have lots of work, no one has time to chase those wolves and even, they don't have time to reach their destiny. There is one thing which can be done and that is, "Change the destiny. Yes, chasing the wolves".

Even though the opponent is playing in a rude way, the other team player is playing without getting angry and not indulging him in any fight. Does that mean, he is coward or afraid of fighting? Absolutely not.The reason behind this is the trust had by the remaining 10 players and whole country. A student who does not fight, though his classmates are rude with him, is because his whole family is dependent on him.


People are bounded by many reasons to move away from problems. This is reality. What you say??????????


Suddenly I remember a quote said by the man who formulated E=mc^2 "A clever person solves the problem. A wise person avoids the problem". What you want to be??????????????

"NOTHING" more sensitive than "THIS"

Have you noticed the hen fighting against dog to protect her chickens? Have you watched the movie "The Lion King"? Have you seen the bird which dies if his/her partner dies?

There is one commonality between the above three statements.

LOVE------the strongest bond between two creatures. Highly philosophical folks say that Earth still exists because of this bonding. If not ............

Something fundamentally is wrong in our economy. Not in all the places but in few places there is a misconception. Ohhh....not really a misconception. It was created by the society. Still in my family or in my area, if I somehow forget about my senses and spell the word love, I feel the embarrassment among the elders who around me. Most of them thinking that love means the physical attraction between the opposite poles i.e., a male and a female. But it's not completely true.

'Love'- I don't know how to define this four letter word. Yet, I can feel it, contemplate it and can't express it. But, it's still in my heart. Flowing all over my body. Sometimes energizes me. Sometimes makes me feel strong but sometimes weak. Sometimes makes me roam in heaven but sometimes in hell. Sometimes keeps me focused but sometimes distracted. It's a ubiquitous.

Everyone have different definitions of love. Only the definition will differ but the core part remains the same to everyone including animals.

I used to ask my friends Yae eppidi da/di ungaluku love varuthu?? ( How are you subjected to love?) Some of the responses are 

1) Some of them say "Just like that I like her and she likes me". That's all.

2) Some say "I don't know machi.....but please don't fall in love"

3) Some say "She told me her love that's why I accepted"

4) Some say "Time pass da"

5) Some of them won't say anything they just smile. Here you can see that their pupil gets dilated, face becomes red

I'm not blaming anyone here. Everyone having love but the difference is the bonding. As long as the bonding exists, LOVE exists

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My model of PEOPLE & LOVE:

According to me there are 4 kinds of people, I'm still young, my knowledge and experience is very narrow. There may be some more kinds also. I don't want to talk about first two kinds. They are extreme cases. Now-a-days, it's very hard to find those cases. It's like finding a unicorn and a white elephant. But I have heard of people like Buddha who love all the creatures in the world. But I never heard about the second kind the people who love no one.

The third and fourth kind of people are common. It may be you or me. Some people started to love others very easily and started trusting them. But you know what happens when they get betrayed by their loved ones. They suffer!! Sometime the intensity of the suffering is very high. It's like people who are addicted to morphine and suddenly if they don't get the morphine. You know what will happen. This is very serious.

The fourth kind is my favorite. People who are afraid of loving others. These people don't want their hands to get dirty. They wanted to be in safe zone. Most of them are introvert. Actually they are not afraid of love, they are afraid of the PAIN which they get due to the love. I don't know what to do? Whether to hate these people or pity on these people or suppress them by saying them as cowards or accept them as they are.

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I have a question. 

Yae eppidi da/di ungaluku love varuthu??

"HANGING without a ROPE"

Except insane people in this insane world everyone wants to live for many years....lets take it as 1000 years. I'm not joking here. If everyone gets good health and money to live for 1000 years, no one hesitate to accept it. 

OK....here I'm not going to write about living for 1000 years. I'm here going to write some stuffs about health.

Everyone needs a healthy life. But how many people are actually working in maintaining their health? Yep...some people but only after the machine gets completely rusted. This is not maintaining the health. This is like removing the rust. The saddest part here is while removing the rust some of the parts become worn out. So, this is not the correct method of maintaining our body.

One of the funniest things I came across was "All the thin people want to become fat and all the fat people want to thin". This thought came among them because of the external environment. I have two friends one is thin and the other one is fat. There is a reason behind them one who is thin want to become fat and one who is fat want to become thin. The reason is external environment (the relatives and the other friends). They used to say him you are thin and you are not healthy. You have to increase your weight otherwise you can't do any work and you will get tired soon. Next is our fat fellow. His situation is so pathetic. They menace him like, in future you will get heart attack soon, you won't get any girl friend and as usual they bombard him with lots of negative thoughts regarding the fatness. These criticisms may be or may not be true. Thinness or fatness does not relate to health.

Now I can remember one thing that I studied in biology. BMI ( Body Mass Index) is a measure based on height and weight of our body. I think it should be between 21-24. It should not be more than 24 or less than 21. Simply we can say depends on our height our weight should be there. Please do research on it. It will help. I don't want to speak about smoking and alcohol consumption. I want to be diplomatic here. People who are alcoholic and smokers are living for 80 years. People who are non alcoholic and non smokers are dying so earlier.

"According to me health is not about living longer. Health is all about doing everyday activities without having any problem in your body and someone not get disturbed because of our body problem. Simply saying waking up every morning and sleeping at every night without any pain in the mind and the body"- Ramanathan.S.

Another interesting thing happened now, I don't know it telepathy or something my batch mates coincidentally complained about the mess food to the top management of my college. Nice "CORRELATION".  They started caring about their HEALTH.

Note: I'm not encouraging smoking and alcohol consumption here. They are very bad.

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Predominance-Politics-People-Pain

"POLITICALLY STRONG"- For me these two words seem like two mammoths standing side by side.

Powerful words, isn't it? I heard these words before but they didn't create any impact on me. But when I heard those words from my professor last week. This was the first time a new neuron was created in my brain. I contemplated on hearing those mighty words.

Everyone knows that politics is everywhere. Everyone did some politics in their life. For people who haven't done the politics they will do the politics somewhere down the line in their life. I have seen people in my life who know how to do politics and also I have seen people who were empathetic who avoid politics. Who will go up in the ladder fast?

If this question was asked before 2 or 3 years. My answer will be the people who are empathetic because that kind of people will be liked by everyone and everyone have good opinion about them even the people who are doing the politics but still they do the politics to them.

But now, I'm in dilemma. I don't know what to say. An old saying is there " Do In Rome As Romans Do". If everyone is throwing stones at us, we have again respond him by throwing stones at them. If we run away from it, they still chase us and they will continue throwing stone at us. So, after a distance we have to stop, turn back, throw the stones and chase them. If not, we will be dead. This is one of the filthiest methods of responding against politics. Still now i haven't talk about the two gigantic words-"Politically Strong"

If we think about the combined meaning of these two words, it means "The animal who has the power to control others, influence others, makes its own laws or policies to push someone or pull someone who is moving in the ladder".

If we take an example, George Bush is a politically strong person. But he is not the only person. Even sales manager is politically strong over his sales people, a guy who is selling water in the middle of a desert and in some school the peons or some people who don't have enough 'Pudhi' (knowledge) to stand near a teacher are politically strong over the teacher. This is politically strong. Does it seem to be little bit awkward? Ummm... not all the times but sometimes.

I'm not against politically strong people. I'm saying that politically strong people should be fair. I know that fairness won't happen.

We can't do anything with the politically strong people. It is very hard to impinge our thoughts to that kind of people. They won't hear. Their ears will go dumb at that point of time. We have to wait in our life until we become a politically strong. We have to go through a lot of pain in our path before become a politically strong person.

Another reality is, people don't want politics happen to them but they can do politics. For them it's not politics, it's complete fairness.

I don't know how long we people (not everyone) going to run away from politics. One day all the people run in the same phase with the politics including the people who are running away from politics. That's the time we expect some fairness.

Note: Some thoughts are not mine. I heard or read somewhere.