'Stars' are not "SMALL"

"Nothing is simple unless we try it and practice it". Philosophical but true. But "Everything is simple if you have right people". It's reality.

The hardest lesson I learnt in the last two days was "For finishing any project successfully, it's not about intelligent people or talented people. It's all about having people with PASSION, WILLINGNESS, DEDICATION, CONTROL and PERSUASION". If we have people who have all these five, they should be intelligent and talent. As Sun Tzu said “If you know about your enemies and yourself, no need to afraid of hundred battles. You can win 100 battles without a single loss". Like that, "If you know about your people and the project what you want to do, you will finish 100 projects without any failure".

It is very difficult to find people with all these five features. Why anyone work for us? This was the question striking my head again and again for the past two days. Is it money? Is it recognition? It may be. But, there is something apart from these two which drives people to work for us. I don't know what is it? That makes the people to follow you.

A day before, I had a situation during my college fest. I had to conduct a round in an event. It required minimum 10 people. I made arrangement for 10 people. But, unfortunately during that day of the fest due to some unavoidable circumstances 6 people were not there. I was hopeless. I didn't have any contingency plans. I didn't know what to do. I thought that why did I take responsibility for conducting that event. I just called some of my friends to come and work for the event. I don't believe that people will come and work for me. But what a miracle, they came and finished the work what I gave for them. I still don't understand why did they come? It may be because of the good relationship with them. The best part was they gave their 100% contribution.

The most vital part is the people who are with us should understand us and our emotions. There should not be any attitude clash. Both of their thinking should act in tandem. If we have right people, even though we get angry them, they won't reflect back the anger towards us. You receive only positive vibes from them. Right people in the sense means the skills of the people should correlate with the project skill. Along with it, we need the five elements that mentioned above. 

Another important thing, there is a vast difference between saying and doing. If you say in management language, there is a vast difference between planning and execution. Without planning we can't straightly get into execution part. Planning is like saying some weird thing we have to do this, that thing. That's all speaking in air. Sometimes it may like a framework in paper. But if we started doing those things, they don't align with the plan. There will be a mismatch. Anyone can plan. At least we can say something like do this, don't do this. It may fit or may not. Before two days, I was in planning side.  This execution part is GOD DAMN TUFF. 

My opinion is a planner may or mayn't be a good executor but an executor will be a good planner. An executor knows what will go wrong. What you say???????

Do I seem like a 'PAWN'?

What do you infer from the figure which in the left side? Everyone see it as a pawn which is the least powerful piece in chess. But, do you know the speciality of the pawn? If it moves forward and reaches the other side i.e., 8^th rank, it turns into a powerful piece. The most powerful piece is Queen. This tiny pawn conceals its intentions. It portraits itself as the least powerful piece in the initial stages of the game. But its real intention is to become a powerful piece. It shows its real image when no one expects.

"CONCEAL YOUR INTENTIONS"

The above dynamic phrase is one of my favourite phrases. Actually, I took it from the book named "48 laws of power". It is a wonderful book but a bit philosophical. "Conceal your intentions" is one of the 48 laws of power.

This phrase doesn't seem to be an interesting one but a very powerful weapon. Everyone who is so much passionate about their life, career or destiny should own it. Potentially, this creates a virtual barrier around us so that it portraits us an 'UNPREDICTABLE" animal. If anything in the universe is predictable, there is no interest in it. There is a complete absence of curiosity. No more heat, blood pumping, eye brow rising or visibility of hard veins in our body.

My belief regarding this phrase is whether we want to do something good or bad, don't reveal our intentions to anyone. Not all the times but in few crucial occasions, it creates chaos. We can't do what we intent to do. Sometimes, it may leads to criticisms. We people hate critics. These intelligent people (critics) lower our self-esteem and move us to the tail of the queue.

Take an example of a boy. If his girlfriend is so predictable, he will lose his interest on her. Vice versa is also true. If a boy is so predictable, his girlfriend will lose her interest on him. This is not only applicable to a boy and a girl. It is applicable to a manager and a subordinate, a coach and a player etc..,

I'm not saying here that every time we should conceal our intentions. Sometimes in order to nurture our relationship, we have to reveal our intentions. Otherwise, it will create a gap in the relationships. Some of the intentions should be like the treasure which is deep under the ocean not like the garbage floating above the water. People search for that treasure. It creates curiosity among them. They will come for us. 

If we are like the garbage floating in the ocean, it makes the insane people to form a belief or conclusion about us. We have to portrait ourselves us like a puzzle which is unsolvable and make others to burn their heads to solve. Even though we are the garbage, we should be the garbage which is inside the treasure. This makes hard for people to create some conclusions about us so quickly.

Our intention should be a problem not to be the answer for the problems. If we reveal our intention, it makes the game easy for others. We are here to make our others life tuff, aren't we?

Intention is like a rain drop inside the oyster shell. It should be kept safely inside the oyster shell until it turns to a pearl. 

If we are mad and greedy, we won't get the precious pearl. You people know what do we get?


Note: The concept 'Conceal your intentions' is taken from '48 laws of power' by 'Robert Greene'

To Stay Animated - "Stamina Matters"

Everyone watched the match played by Swiss Tennis Maestro 'Roger' and Indian cricket wall 'Dravid'. Apart from their sensible playing, the important thing which I'm curious or interested about is their "STAMINA". Both of them are really cool. Even after playing for a long time their make-up will not change. There is no new moon when they are in ground. You will always see a full moon.

Take Roger, his energy level while entering the court will be same as that of the energy level while coming out of the court i.e., when the match gets over, he doesn't seem like exhausted. His play doesn't seem like a sinusoidal wave. There are no ups and downs. Always it seems like a direct current graph (straight line-constant). Tennis is the battle of endurance. In a grand slam, a player has to play minimum 3 sets and maximum 5 sets. A player should not go to an excitation state when he wins a set and should not bury himself when he loses a set. He has to be consistent in his attitude, energy level and focus. If there is any fall or rise in any one of these three, he will be under the control of the opponent.

One of my professors gave us the difference between 'a sprint' and 'a marathon'. In a sprint, the person who finishes the race first is the winner but in case of marathon the persons who finish the race are winners. Similarly, our life is not a sprint with only one winner. It's a god damn marathon. We have to sustain the race for prolonged duration until we reach our destiny.

Small victories in our journey are like the energy drink which will be given in between the race. We have to decide how much we are going to taste the drink. If we drink above the limit, it becomes a burden. Sometimes, it makes us walk. It extends the race duration. Spoils our consistency. Here comes the endurance. Unless and until we motivate ourselves, it's really hard to reach our destiny. Stamina really matters to maintain a constant motion.

Since life is a marathon no need to consider or care about the stupid souls who are competing with us. My opinion is to track their performance while you are crossing them or will be crossed by them. Everyone is a winner boss. If the guy who is competing with you buys a Lamborghini Reventon at the age of 35 then you may buy that car at 38 or 39.

I have seen people who had the sinusoidal attitude while running in a marathon. Why do I want to point out someone else? Take me. I had sinusoidal attitude. When someone overtook me, all the energy in my whole body gets consolidated in my legs and I started running fast. I felt good when I was overtaking someone. But, what's the use? After a certain period of time, I felt beat. Then, everything ended in disaster.

Same thing is applicable in our life also. Like all Tom, Dick and Harry say "Have a vision in your life".

Some may argue that why can't we finish the race with high speed without getting exhausted. It's possible, only if you are naturally gifted or have inherent talent.

"Saint Valentine's Day"-- 'WONDERFUL' or 'PITIFUL'

Today is gonna be a fantastic day for the couples. In my 23 years of journey in this lunatic earth, this is the first time I'm thinking about '14th February'. The reason is simple. I'm blogging something regarding Valentine’s Day. 

All telephone lines are busy and I can't even send a damn message to anyone. These love birds are torturing me. Aiyoooooooo!!!!!!!!! Hahaha. This is obvious. This may be a horrible torture for some people who are alone. 'Alone' means not always alone. They will also walk by holding the hands of someone someday. But, this is not a horrible torture for the love birds. Every second delay in reaching his/her loved one's is a pleasure with a wondrous pain. They need this wondrous pain.  These 86400 seconds are like travelling in the roads of heaven for those love birds. They don't want to lose those precious seconds. 

Giving gifts and receiving gifts create some nice feelings. But, the best part is, walking with our loved one's by holding his/her warm hands in a place where no one is there, except the cold gentle breeze. Awesome!!!! this will create some unnamed sensations in the core of our heart. No one can buy it. These are "PRICELESS SENSATIONS". 

The special thing in 'TRUE' love is, for a boy his lover will be the most beautiful girl in the world and for a girl her lover will be the only hero in the world. I don't know why? But, it is true. 

This is the day in which the existing love between the people rejuvenates and also fresh love starts budding between people. This is also the day in which most of the broken hearts get affixed. You people know the reason.

The above events are WONDERFUL events. They are like water flowing in rivers. They are seamless and create pleasant sound. The events that I'm going to talk in the later part are like the waves in the sea. These events are 'PITIFUL' events which are noisy, restless and create numbness.

I don't want to talk about those events today........It is not right to talk about those events on this auspicious day, isn't it?

I respect 'TRUE' Love and 'TRUE' Lovers. 

My opinion is, "Believe in one, love one and live for one"

Shadows that follow you even in dark

Ahhhhhhh....Gotcha!! Last week, one of my friends asked me, Mama, What is FRIENDSHIP? How to identify good friends? As usual and the only thing I know, I smiled at him and said "Boss, don't know". After that, we went for dinner.


When I thought of blogging and searching for a topic, I saw a facebook post. The post was about friendship. It said that there were different kinds of friends such as real friends, facebook friends, time pass friends and etc...I don't remember now. Now, I'm thinking answers for the question "What is friendship?"

Have you noticed your shadow? If not, notice it today. The size of the shadow changes every time and this is mainly because of environmental situations. Due to intensity of light or climate changes and sometimes it disappears due to barriers or darkness. But everything is ILLUSION. The same thing applies to friendship. Sometimes friends are with you and most of the times, they ain't. The intensity of friendship is a fluctuating one. Sometimes it touches the sky and sometimes beneath the mantle. It's also an ILLUSION. Weird? Confusing? But it's true.

According to me, a friend is one, who accepts you whatever or whoever you are. He/she doesn't care about your background and habit whether you drink or smoke or any other bad habits (important: There are no bad habits). He may or may not tease you. He may or may not ask you how are you? Have you had your food? Have you studied or not? The only thing he needs is 'THE TRUST'.

When I was young, Mr. X said, "AAA is your friend. Why can't you give some advice to him/her?" HELLO!!! How can I give advice to him/her? The reason for not giving advice is I don't want to lose his/her friendship. I know to whom I have to give advice. If I start giving advice to all my friends, I'll end up with 3 or 4 friends. Again Mr. X asked me, "Don't you care about your friends?" Then I said, sir this doesn't mean that I don't care about my friends. I know about him/her very well. His/her attitude, belief, like and dislike. That's the main reason I'm not giving advice. This means, I won't say anything to him/her directly. But, somewhat indirectly.

It's not true that best friends always have to eat, roam, play and study together. Hello, give me a break boss. It's beyond that. Good friends are who can understand other's silence. They don't want to break the harmony. They know when to break silence. They know when to be together. Even though they are far away, there is always a synchronous communication between them. Now comes the main part. There is no ego or arrogance prevailing between the friends. If anyone of the above exists, sorry it's better for them to walk in different direction.

There is a wonderful habit among boys (sorry girls, I don't know about you people). If there is any fight between any two close friends, it will be solved within a day. Want to know how? The other friends along with the two fighting bulls go to the place where you can rejuvenate yourself. When some drops of intoxicant go inside, everything will be alright. It's like an open loop circuit becomes a closed loop circuit. Electrons started flowing. This may seems to be funny. It's happening in most of the places. But it’s very effective.

A good friend is a guy/girl who won't speak something by keeping something in his/her heart. He won't care about what you are? Who you are? Who are all your friends? The only thing he/she cares about is "The Trust".

A friend is one who understands your silence. He/she knows what kind of music has to be played in order to break your silence and  when to play.

Do Not Want To Look Behind The WOLVES Which Are Chasing Me

When someone shouts at us or shouts at someone who is in front of us, 'YOU ARE A COWARD. GO AND DIG YOURSELF'. What do we think? How do we react? Some people try to defend themselves by saying, 'I am not a coward'. Some try to prove themselves as brave by doing something. Some people feel ashamed. Some people as usual have a smile on their faces and move away.

I don't think all people are brave and also all are not coward. Both braveness and cowardliness exist in all the souls roaming below the stratosphere. A person is brave when he/she is surrounded by his/her 'strengths' and coward when he/she is surrounded by his/her 'weaknesses'. Ooops! I deviated a little bit. 

I want to write about the people who smile when others say that they are cowards. Those people are not afraid of fighting. They don't want to fight. Because it's not afraid of being get hurt. It's being afraid of the people around them who might get hurt.


Since they are not turning back and chasing the wolves which are chasing them, they are labelled as cowards. In the fast moving earth which is tilted of about 23.5 degree, no one wants to waste their time, energy and go backward to beat those filthy wolves. They know how to avoid those wolves and run in their highway. Unfortunately sometimes, they get hurt by those wolves.

A few brave people in certain areas argue,"Why don't we stop and chase those wolves?". My opinion is "Yes, you can". But, the thing is, people have lots of work, no one has time to chase those wolves and even, they don't have time to reach their destiny. There is one thing which can be done and that is, "Change the destiny. Yes, chasing the wolves".

Even though the opponent is playing in a rude way, the other team player is playing without getting angry and not indulging him in any fight. Does that mean, he is coward or afraid of fighting? Absolutely not.The reason behind this is the trust had by the remaining 10 players and whole country. A student who does not fight, though his classmates are rude with him, is because his whole family is dependent on him.


People are bounded by many reasons to move away from problems. This is reality. What you say??????????


Suddenly I remember a quote said by the man who formulated E=mc^2 "A clever person solves the problem. A wise person avoids the problem". What you want to be??????????????

"NOTHING" more sensitive than "THIS"

Have you noticed the hen fighting against dog to protect her chickens? Have you watched the movie "The Lion King"? Have you seen the bird which dies if his/her partner dies?

There is one commonality between the above three statements.

LOVE------the strongest bond between two creatures. Highly philosophical folks say that Earth still exists because of this bonding. If not ............

Something fundamentally is wrong in our economy. Not in all the places but in few places there is a misconception. Ohhh....not really a misconception. It was created by the society. Still in my family or in my area, if I somehow forget about my senses and spell the word love, I feel the embarrassment among the elders who around me. Most of them thinking that love means the physical attraction between the opposite poles i.e., a male and a female. But it's not completely true.

'Love'- I don't know how to define this four letter word. Yet, I can feel it, contemplate it and can't express it. But, it's still in my heart. Flowing all over my body. Sometimes energizes me. Sometimes makes me feel strong but sometimes weak. Sometimes makes me roam in heaven but sometimes in hell. Sometimes keeps me focused but sometimes distracted. It's a ubiquitous.

Everyone have different definitions of love. Only the definition will differ but the core part remains the same to everyone including animals.

I used to ask my friends Yae eppidi da/di ungaluku love varuthu?? ( How are you subjected to love?) Some of the responses are 

1) Some of them say "Just like that I like her and she likes me". That's all.

2) Some say "I don't know machi.....but please don't fall in love"

3) Some say "She told me her love that's why I accepted"

4) Some say "Time pass da"

5) Some of them won't say anything they just smile. Here you can see that their pupil gets dilated, face becomes red

I'm not blaming anyone here. Everyone having love but the difference is the bonding. As long as the bonding exists, LOVE exists

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My model of PEOPLE & LOVE:

According to me there are 4 kinds of people, I'm still young, my knowledge and experience is very narrow. There may be some more kinds also. I don't want to talk about first two kinds. They are extreme cases. Now-a-days, it's very hard to find those cases. It's like finding a unicorn and a white elephant. But I have heard of people like Buddha who love all the creatures in the world. But I never heard about the second kind the people who love no one.

The third and fourth kind of people are common. It may be you or me. Some people started to love others very easily and started trusting them. But you know what happens when they get betrayed by their loved ones. They suffer!! Sometime the intensity of the suffering is very high. It's like people who are addicted to morphine and suddenly if they don't get the morphine. You know what will happen. This is very serious.

The fourth kind is my favorite. People who are afraid of loving others. These people don't want their hands to get dirty. They wanted to be in safe zone. Most of them are introvert. Actually they are not afraid of love, they are afraid of the PAIN which they get due to the love. I don't know what to do? Whether to hate these people or pity on these people or suppress them by saying them as cowards or accept them as they are.

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I have a question. 

Yae eppidi da/di ungaluku love varuthu??

"HANGING without a ROPE"

Except insane people in this insane world everyone wants to live for many years....lets take it as 1000 years. I'm not joking here. If everyone gets good health and money to live for 1000 years, no one hesitate to accept it. 

OK....here I'm not going to write about living for 1000 years. I'm here going to write some stuffs about health.

Everyone needs a healthy life. But how many people are actually working in maintaining their health? Yep...some people but only after the machine gets completely rusted. This is not maintaining the health. This is like removing the rust. The saddest part here is while removing the rust some of the parts become worn out. So, this is not the correct method of maintaining our body.

One of the funniest things I came across was "All the thin people want to become fat and all the fat people want to thin". This thought came among them because of the external environment. I have two friends one is thin and the other one is fat. There is a reason behind them one who is thin want to become fat and one who is fat want to become thin. The reason is external environment (the relatives and the other friends). They used to say him you are thin and you are not healthy. You have to increase your weight otherwise you can't do any work and you will get tired soon. Next is our fat fellow. His situation is so pathetic. They menace him like, in future you will get heart attack soon, you won't get any girl friend and as usual they bombard him with lots of negative thoughts regarding the fatness. These criticisms may be or may not be true. Thinness or fatness does not relate to health.

Now I can remember one thing that I studied in biology. BMI ( Body Mass Index) is a measure based on height and weight of our body. I think it should be between 21-24. It should not be more than 24 or less than 21. Simply we can say depends on our height our weight should be there. Please do research on it. It will help. I don't want to speak about smoking and alcohol consumption. I want to be diplomatic here. People who are alcoholic and smokers are living for 80 years. People who are non alcoholic and non smokers are dying so earlier.

"According to me health is not about living longer. Health is all about doing everyday activities without having any problem in your body and someone not get disturbed because of our body problem. Simply saying waking up every morning and sleeping at every night without any pain in the mind and the body"- Ramanathan.S.

Another interesting thing happened now, I don't know it telepathy or something my batch mates coincidentally complained about the mess food to the top management of my college. Nice "CORRELATION".  They started caring about their HEALTH.

Note: I'm not encouraging smoking and alcohol consumption here. They are very bad.

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Predominance-Politics-People-Pain

"POLITICALLY STRONG"- For me these two words seem like two mammoths standing side by side.

Powerful words, isn't it? I heard these words before but they didn't create any impact on me. But when I heard those words from my professor last week. This was the first time a new neuron was created in my brain. I contemplated on hearing those mighty words.

Everyone knows that politics is everywhere. Everyone did some politics in their life. For people who haven't done the politics they will do the politics somewhere down the line in their life. I have seen people in my life who know how to do politics and also I have seen people who were empathetic who avoid politics. Who will go up in the ladder fast?

If this question was asked before 2 or 3 years. My answer will be the people who are empathetic because that kind of people will be liked by everyone and everyone have good opinion about them even the people who are doing the politics but still they do the politics to them.

But now, I'm in dilemma. I don't know what to say. An old saying is there " Do In Rome As Romans Do". If everyone is throwing stones at us, we have again respond him by throwing stones at them. If we run away from it, they still chase us and they will continue throwing stone at us. So, after a distance we have to stop, turn back, throw the stones and chase them. If not, we will be dead. This is one of the filthiest methods of responding against politics. Still now i haven't talk about the two gigantic words-"Politically Strong"

If we think about the combined meaning of these two words, it means "The animal who has the power to control others, influence others, makes its own laws or policies to push someone or pull someone who is moving in the ladder".

If we take an example, George Bush is a politically strong person. But he is not the only person. Even sales manager is politically strong over his sales people, a guy who is selling water in the middle of a desert and in some school the peons or some people who don't have enough 'Pudhi' (knowledge) to stand near a teacher are politically strong over the teacher. This is politically strong. Does it seem to be little bit awkward? Ummm... not all the times but sometimes.

I'm not against politically strong people. I'm saying that politically strong people should be fair. I know that fairness won't happen.

We can't do anything with the politically strong people. It is very hard to impinge our thoughts to that kind of people. They won't hear. Their ears will go dumb at that point of time. We have to wait in our life until we become a politically strong. We have to go through a lot of pain in our path before become a politically strong person.

Another reality is, people don't want politics happen to them but they can do politics. For them it's not politics, it's complete fairness.

I don't know how long we people (not everyone) going to run away from politics. One day all the people run in the same phase with the politics including the people who are running away from politics. That's the time we expect some fairness.

Note: Some thoughts are not mine. I heard or read somewhere.

Who will win the fight? Elephant Vs Ant

You can ask me, what a weird title? You may say, the answer is obvious. Elephant. I'm not denying. Elephant will win. But there is an equal chance for the ant to win. For the ant to beat elephant, it has to bite the elephant. Not in the leg or trunk or tail. The ant has to bite inside the ear of the elephant. That bite will make the elephant to go mad and ultimately the elephant will die. This is not a fiction. It's true. So, size or skill doesn't require to win. Just a little bit common sense and willingness along with hard work is must to win a battle.

The reason for the write up is anyone or any team can win any game or battle unless they play the game or fight the battle with great enthusiasm and with team spirit.

It was a cloudy evening. All the player were wearing the stocking, shin guard and moving towards the hockey ground. Everyone seemed to be numb. These players were like a group of birds which flies in the direction where the wind blows. They were in the ship which is sailing alone in the sea. No one was there for them to show the direction which side to fly or no light house is there for showing them the way to reach the shore. They started their warming session. One man who was watching the team x by leaning on the goal post. That man was too young. One of the first year student from the team x went near him and asked who are you? Why are you here? Go away. You are not supposed to be here. If any of our senior sees you, he not only scolding you but also scolds me. That man told the boy in a bold voice. Poda...team x la irrukum ellareiyum innga kootitu va..(Call everyone in the team x). Everyone went there. That man told them I'm your new coach. For this year I'm gonna coach you. No one in the team x believed that he was a coach.

Practice session started. After two weeks he came to know about each and everyone in the team x. He knew about everyone strengths and weaknesses. After three weeks, he said OK guys it's the time to start the level ZERO. He arranged a practice match against a secondary school hockey team. The players were so much embarrassed what the hell? We are college team x how can we play with the school team. But what to do? They have to play.

Match started. Can you predict the result? The result was 0-0. The players were ashamed. Everyone thought that today coach gonna scold us. The coach came and said OK well done boys. We have to correct something. Tomorrow morning we will meet in the ground. All the players were shocked. What the hell is happening here. Instead of new coach if some other coach would have been there he would have beaten each and everyone and all the player's jersey would have been torn by him.

Afterwards, instead of concentrating on our skills and the way of playing. He inculcated team x spirit among the players. After that we have played any matches for 2 months. Every year that team x used to receive a call from a National level hockey tournament. The reason why they were calling the team x because that team x was near to area the tournament was held. All the best teams in that state used to participate in the tournament. Some teams from other state also participate in that tournament. That tournament is like a picnic for the team x for the past ten year. They never won a single match. This time also they went with the same motive. Luckily, the first match was against a team which is of equal strength to team x. Team x won the game. All the players were happy. This like Bangladesh won its first match against Ireland. Here comes the devil. The next match was against the best team in the state. All the players in the team are national players. Wining a match in National level tournament is more than enough for the team x. They are satisfied.

Next day, the match started. In the first 30 seconds, there was a sound DUP. GOOOOOOAL.......Don't mistake it was not team x. It was the opponent. Team x decided that today they gonna score at least 15 goals. Then again match started. The ball moved from the center. The temperature of team x was increasing like when the sun moves from the east and it comes perpendicular to our head at 12 pm. We feel the heat at 12pm. The match was so vigorous. All the players in the team x were defending. First half 1-0. Second half started team x was dying in the field. Suddenly another DUP. This time team x. Final whistle 1-1. Then tie breaker 4-5. Team x won the game. No one in that tournament believed. This is like Bangladesh won against Australia. The players were dancing in the ground. This is the time the players realised about their potential and about the team spirit. When compared to the other team, team x was no where. The one thing i.e., the core competency the team x had was team spirit and the competitive advantage was the coach who showed the right direction for the team. This was not the end. This was the starting journey of team x.

Anyone can do anything. It's not about muscle power. Its about willpower.

Rare to get a 'SECOND' chance

There is an old saying "Opportunity knocks the door once". If it does not knock, we have to search for the opportunity and have to grab the opportunity.

Everyone knows about the above mentioned lines. I'm not trying to justify the above statement or try to rationalize the statement. My question is whether the young chaps in India are allowed to go for searching their opportunities or not? The reason for such useless question is, because the most of the Indians are bound by their families.

This is the story about a lad who realized about his life in the mid of 20 years of his age. He wants to search his destiny. The main obstacle for his search is his family. The mentality of the lad is to achieve something. He doesn't want to be another brick in a wall. He wants to lead his life on his own way. At the same time he thinks about his parents who taught him each and every aspect of the life. Parents not only assisted the lad to take every step during his childhood but also they assisted him to take steps to walk in the lane called life. He can't sacrifice his parents for his destiny.

If we see the perspective of parents, we can't blame them. They are also normal human beings. Take a example, if someone giving me a small cute kitten. I keep that kitten for 2 weeks. Suddenly, if someone comes and asks for the kitten, Will I give? No, absolutely not. Instead I will fight with them or I will give some ransom to them to keep the kitten with me. See, what will the parents do? They are having a big dream about that lad. They enjoyed each and every moment of the success of the lad and they worried about the future of that lad and how much they sacrificed for the lad. No one can describe the above mentioned lines. 

If we see the perspective of the lad, he doesn't want to lose his chance of searching his destiny. Because, the reason is he won't get a second chance in his life. This is the time he can go out and watch the world outside. He tried his best to stay with his parents but he couldn't. At the same time he tried his best to make his parents realize about the situation. He understands everything but his parents??????????

Which path to select? Search for his destiny or stay with their parents to make them happy.

Note: Developed from the song "Shinedown-Second Chance"

How To Play Without Shedding Our Own Blood?????? "Game Theory"

Competition!!!!!!!!!! Where did it start? It started when we were in the womb of our mother. We all came to this battle field (earth) by annihilated millions of sperms. That's the place actually fighting started. The reasons for all the fights are 'showing the supremacy' and 'for the survival'. We all know what will happen at the end of the fight. Blood shed all over the place and look like a hell. The winner stands and the loser drops off. Is there any way to win the fight without shedding blood???

The book Blue Ocean Strategy says "How to create an uncontested market space and makes the competition irrelevant". This means how to move from the ocean which is red because of the vigorous competition to the ocean which blue where there is no blood and no competition. In the above scenario, we may be a Mahatma but    our competitors are not. They will imitate our strategy and make our blue ocean again a red ocean.

An another way is there to handle this. Here we won't shed the blood but we make our competitor to shed the blood. This strategy is possible if and only if we know about our competitors thoroughly. We have to have knowledge about the competitor's each and every micro move they make. What do they think? Are they thinking the same what we think? OR Are we thinking the same way what they think? If both of us think in the same way, then surely there will be blood all over the market. How to have a rational thinking that the competitor won't think? How to get a success by knowing what the competitors thinking? 

There is an economic concept is there "GAME THEORY- This theory is about making rational decision by analyzing all the outcomes and by selecting the best suitable outcome which make us to survive and may or may not help the competitors. This also talks about two kinds of decision making "Simultaneous"(taking decisions simultaneously as with our competitors) and "Sequential"(taking decision after the decision which is taken by our competitor)  The vital point here is the rational decision won't let us down". Prisoners Dilemma which explains about game theory. This talks about the rational decision making behavior of the two prisoners.

Yesterday, I was watching a movie "THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY" a cowboy movie. In the climax they implemented the game theory. What was the thinking of the three guys (the good, the bad and the ugly). The director beautifully showed the scene how they were rationally thinking in the verge of death. 

The scene is, three of them found a treasure. They didn't want to split the treasure into three. Now the battle began. Think about an equilateral triangle, each one of them standing in the three points of the triangle and each one having a gun. Will you able to judge what were they thinking? Can you think how many possible ways each one think by killing the other two to get the treasure? 

Who will win? They guys who pulled the trigger first or the guy who pulled the trigger last or the guy who runs off or guy who stands still or is there any possibility of any one of them killing the other two or etc.,the list goes on.................

Think rationally. What is the best decision can one take in that scenario to protect himself and to get the treasure? Analyze the outcomes and select the best possible outcome and make a decision.

Are we rational or irrational in decision making? Think about how many rational and irrational decisions we made 1:100. May be even more 1:200 or even more. But in corporate there is no place for irrationality.

Watch the movie "The Good, The Bad and The Ugly". There are two kinds of people in the world "one is rational and other is irrational" . 


Which one are you???????????

When does change happen?

Evolution of the earth

Evolution of a life in the earth

Formation of air and water

Finally.....

Evolution of a wonderful creature in the earth is a "Human Being".

The above are the top mysteries. There are theories like Darwinism explained about the evolution of life in the earth. The ambiguous part here is how long does it take for all the changes to happen? Do you think that these are all happened within 2 or 3 or 10 or 100 years. It's NOT. It took million and million of years for all the changes. Even for an amoeba (an unicellular organism) to change into a multi cellular organism it took more than 100 million years. This amoeba undergone many molecular changes under various environmental conditions then it transformed into a multi cellular.

The point I want to make here is for an unicellular organism it took 100 million year. But why everyone want multi cellular organisms like human beings have change quickly. It's bit contradictory. I think so.

My question is whether we need change or not. The answer is obviously YES. The funniest part is everyone want to change but we are so reluctant to change. It's very easy to say others to change. But when it comes to us, we ask a question Why do I change? Sometimes the question is relevant but most of the times is still a question. In some situations we stand as an odd if we don't change.

Even a rock which wants to change into a beautiful sculpture will undergo lots of pain. The sculptor helps the rock to form a beautiful sculptor. Even for an object from a wrought iron it undergoes forging by a blacksmith. If we compare the characteristic of a sculptor and a blacksmith. Both of them are different. Blacksmith is so ruff and tuff when compared to a sculptor. Sculptor is little bit soft. He hits the stone with care otherwise the stone will break. But the blacksmith hits like a meteoroid hiting the earth's surface.

We people also need a blacksmith or a sculptor for the change.

According to me, for us to change we need a great blow like a blow given by a blacksmith using a hammer. Deformation of our behaviour depends on the malleability we have otherwise we will break. My opinion is everyone need a hard blow or a hard drift to change our career.

"CHANGE IS DIFFICULT BUT IT'S GOOD"

"Be malleable for the change" 

Have You Ever Felt The Sensation? "Hands Wash Away The Tears"

SENSITIVE TOUCH. After a long time, I talked with my 'SANDIYARGAL'(members in my college team). I remembered some of the memorable incidents that happened during my college days. If we think about our past life i.e., our college days, we almost remember the moments that made us merry. In course of time there may be a chance of forgetting some of those merry moments.

Some of the incidents which we never forget. They remain as a scar. Those scars are the incidents that occurred due to some emotions. I don't know how to define those emotions. I think some people can understand.

Have You Ever Felt The Sensation? "Hands Wash Away The Tears". Yes. From our mom and dad when we were young. But, the folks born somewhere in the world, not our blood relation, don't expect anything from us wash away the fluid that secrets from our lachrymal glands when we are under depression or we are subjected to any cataclysm. The hands of the folks come automatically when our hands searching for a support.

Friendship is not only limit to smoking 30 cigars everyday, boozing until sunrise and teasing girls or boys in a group. The above activities do not add any value to the friendship. There are lot of things there, apart from the above activities. Friends are like thumb finger. They are inescapable. We can use them as a defensive tool or an offensive one. Its up to us. A good friend will know about our emotions.

I still remember the days, they fought for me, cried for me, laughed along with me, cared for me and kicked me whenever I was side-tracking. I'm not the only greenhorn who had friends. Everyone have friends. The vital part is whether the friends are just holding your hands for their support or holding your hands for your support.

I remember one statement that came in a movie named "Its a wonderful life". The statement is "REMEMBER NO MAN IS A FAILURE WHO HAS FRIENDS".

"Respect Friendship".

They are like the shadow, which follows us until................................................

Taste Of Sacrifice!!!!!!!!!!!! Dads are not chesty

Have we ever sacrificed anything for our loved ones? Of course, if we want something from them. Technically, sacrifice is directly proportional to our wants from others. Why are we reluctant to sacrifice tiny things to our loved ones? By chance if someone sacrificed something for someone, why are they loquacious about it? Show off? Do they want to show their benevolence?

ARE THE ABOVE INTERPRETATIONS TRUE IN ALL THE CASES?

NO.

A small fable,

A 13yr old lad completed his 5th standard. One day, he saw some of the boys who are elder than him were playing Chess. On seeing them playing, the little boy also wanted to play chess. So, he approached his dad. He shouted, "Dad, I want a chess board". His dad who is gentle in nature bought him a chess board. After a few days, the boy somehow learnt to play chess.He beat all of his friends. The boy was hubris.Being hubris is not his fault. If we keenly noticed ourselves in our young age, we had the mentality that we have to win all the battles whoever the opponent is. Everyday, both(dad and son) were used to play chess. The boy won all the matches against his dad. One day, unfortunately the boy was in the situation of losing the game. He didn't know what to do? Dad saw the tears stagnant in the eyes of his adorable son. He didn't want his son to lose the game. Didn't want to hurt him. Didn't want to lower his confidence. His dad deliberately made a wrong move. The boy won the match. The boy didn't know about his dad deliberate move. He thought that he played well and he won the match.

Now tell, who was happy? The boy was happy but the dad was in ECSTASY. The story may be boring. But the message it delivers in the last is notable.

I'm not saying to the people to sacrifice their life or money. Just try to sacrifice something very tiny for your loved ones and make them feel happy. You will feel the euphoria.

At that moment that boy didn't noticed his dad tiny sacrifice. But he saw the eyes of his dad. Later, when he grown up he remembered those eyes and the moment, he felt proud of his dad.

Now the message part,

We managers, even though you know small things, just ask your subordinates or your boss. Hello boss "You are well versed in the above topic, can you please just explain me". They will surely explain you. This will create an impression in your boss or sub ordinate's mind that you are harmless and open-minded. In future, if they have any doubts, clarifications or even help they will approach you. You are breaking the barriers between you and them. This will lead to create rapport. This is my opinion. If possible, just try it once. I tried.

Make your loved ones happy for at least a few circumstances.