Rare to get a 'SECOND' chance

There is an old saying "Opportunity knocks the door once". If it does not knock, we have to search for the opportunity and have to grab the opportunity.

Everyone knows about the above mentioned lines. I'm not trying to justify the above statement or try to rationalize the statement. My question is whether the young chaps in India are allowed to go for searching their opportunities or not? The reason for such useless question is, because the most of the Indians are bound by their families.

This is the story about a lad who realized about his life in the mid of 20 years of his age. He wants to search his destiny. The main obstacle for his search is his family. The mentality of the lad is to achieve something. He doesn't want to be another brick in a wall. He wants to lead his life on his own way. At the same time he thinks about his parents who taught him each and every aspect of the life. Parents not only assisted the lad to take every step during his childhood but also they assisted him to take steps to walk in the lane called life. He can't sacrifice his parents for his destiny.

If we see the perspective of parents, we can't blame them. They are also normal human beings. Take a example, if someone giving me a small cute kitten. I keep that kitten for 2 weeks. Suddenly, if someone comes and asks for the kitten, Will I give? No, absolutely not. Instead I will fight with them or I will give some ransom to them to keep the kitten with me. See, what will the parents do? They are having a big dream about that lad. They enjoyed each and every moment of the success of the lad and they worried about the future of that lad and how much they sacrificed for the lad. No one can describe the above mentioned lines. 

If we see the perspective of the lad, he doesn't want to lose his chance of searching his destiny. Because, the reason is he won't get a second chance in his life. This is the time he can go out and watch the world outside. He tried his best to stay with his parents but he couldn't. At the same time he tried his best to make his parents realize about the situation. He understands everything but his parents??????????

Which path to select? Search for his destiny or stay with their parents to make them happy.

Note: Developed from the song "Shinedown-Second Chance"

How To Play Without Shedding Our Own Blood?????? "Game Theory"

Competition!!!!!!!!!! Where did it start? It started when we were in the womb of our mother. We all came to this battle field (earth) by annihilated millions of sperms. That's the place actually fighting started. The reasons for all the fights are 'showing the supremacy' and 'for the survival'. We all know what will happen at the end of the fight. Blood shed all over the place and look like a hell. The winner stands and the loser drops off. Is there any way to win the fight without shedding blood???

The book Blue Ocean Strategy says "How to create an uncontested market space and makes the competition irrelevant". This means how to move from the ocean which is red because of the vigorous competition to the ocean which blue where there is no blood and no competition. In the above scenario, we may be a Mahatma but    our competitors are not. They will imitate our strategy and make our blue ocean again a red ocean.

An another way is there to handle this. Here we won't shed the blood but we make our competitor to shed the blood. This strategy is possible if and only if we know about our competitors thoroughly. We have to have knowledge about the competitor's each and every micro move they make. What do they think? Are they thinking the same what we think? OR Are we thinking the same way what they think? If both of us think in the same way, then surely there will be blood all over the market. How to have a rational thinking that the competitor won't think? How to get a success by knowing what the competitors thinking? 

There is an economic concept is there "GAME THEORY- This theory is about making rational decision by analyzing all the outcomes and by selecting the best suitable outcome which make us to survive and may or may not help the competitors. This also talks about two kinds of decision making "Simultaneous"(taking decisions simultaneously as with our competitors) and "Sequential"(taking decision after the decision which is taken by our competitor)  The vital point here is the rational decision won't let us down". Prisoners Dilemma which explains about game theory. This talks about the rational decision making behavior of the two prisoners.

Yesterday, I was watching a movie "THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY" a cowboy movie. In the climax they implemented the game theory. What was the thinking of the three guys (the good, the bad and the ugly). The director beautifully showed the scene how they were rationally thinking in the verge of death. 

The scene is, three of them found a treasure. They didn't want to split the treasure into three. Now the battle began. Think about an equilateral triangle, each one of them standing in the three points of the triangle and each one having a gun. Will you able to judge what were they thinking? Can you think how many possible ways each one think by killing the other two to get the treasure? 

Who will win? They guys who pulled the trigger first or the guy who pulled the trigger last or the guy who runs off or guy who stands still or is there any possibility of any one of them killing the other two or etc.,the list goes on.................

Think rationally. What is the best decision can one take in that scenario to protect himself and to get the treasure? Analyze the outcomes and select the best possible outcome and make a decision.

Are we rational or irrational in decision making? Think about how many rational and irrational decisions we made 1:100. May be even more 1:200 or even more. But in corporate there is no place for irrationality.

Watch the movie "The Good, The Bad and The Ugly". There are two kinds of people in the world "one is rational and other is irrational" . 


Which one are you???????????

When does change happen?

Evolution of the earth

Evolution of a life in the earth

Formation of air and water

Finally.....

Evolution of a wonderful creature in the earth is a "Human Being".

The above are the top mysteries. There are theories like Darwinism explained about the evolution of life in the earth. The ambiguous part here is how long does it take for all the changes to happen? Do you think that these are all happened within 2 or 3 or 10 or 100 years. It's NOT. It took million and million of years for all the changes. Even for an amoeba (an unicellular organism) to change into a multi cellular organism it took more than 100 million years. This amoeba undergone many molecular changes under various environmental conditions then it transformed into a multi cellular.

The point I want to make here is for an unicellular organism it took 100 million year. But why everyone want multi cellular organisms like human beings have change quickly. It's bit contradictory. I think so.

My question is whether we need change or not. The answer is obviously YES. The funniest part is everyone want to change but we are so reluctant to change. It's very easy to say others to change. But when it comes to us, we ask a question Why do I change? Sometimes the question is relevant but most of the times is still a question. In some situations we stand as an odd if we don't change.

Even a rock which wants to change into a beautiful sculpture will undergo lots of pain. The sculptor helps the rock to form a beautiful sculptor. Even for an object from a wrought iron it undergoes forging by a blacksmith. If we compare the characteristic of a sculptor and a blacksmith. Both of them are different. Blacksmith is so ruff and tuff when compared to a sculptor. Sculptor is little bit soft. He hits the stone with care otherwise the stone will break. But the blacksmith hits like a meteoroid hiting the earth's surface.

We people also need a blacksmith or a sculptor for the change.

According to me, for us to change we need a great blow like a blow given by a blacksmith using a hammer. Deformation of our behaviour depends on the malleability we have otherwise we will break. My opinion is everyone need a hard blow or a hard drift to change our career.

"CHANGE IS DIFFICULT BUT IT'S GOOD"

"Be malleable for the change" 

Have You Ever Felt The Sensation? "Hands Wash Away The Tears"

SENSITIVE TOUCH. After a long time, I talked with my 'SANDIYARGAL'(members in my college team). I remembered some of the memorable incidents that happened during my college days. If we think about our past life i.e., our college days, we almost remember the moments that made us merry. In course of time there may be a chance of forgetting some of those merry moments.

Some of the incidents which we never forget. They remain as a scar. Those scars are the incidents that occurred due to some emotions. I don't know how to define those emotions. I think some people can understand.

Have You Ever Felt The Sensation? "Hands Wash Away The Tears". Yes. From our mom and dad when we were young. But, the folks born somewhere in the world, not our blood relation, don't expect anything from us wash away the fluid that secrets from our lachrymal glands when we are under depression or we are subjected to any cataclysm. The hands of the folks come automatically when our hands searching for a support.

Friendship is not only limit to smoking 30 cigars everyday, boozing until sunrise and teasing girls or boys in a group. The above activities do not add any value to the friendship. There are lot of things there, apart from the above activities. Friends are like thumb finger. They are inescapable. We can use them as a defensive tool or an offensive one. Its up to us. A good friend will know about our emotions.

I still remember the days, they fought for me, cried for me, laughed along with me, cared for me and kicked me whenever I was side-tracking. I'm not the only greenhorn who had friends. Everyone have friends. The vital part is whether the friends are just holding your hands for their support or holding your hands for your support.

I remember one statement that came in a movie named "Its a wonderful life". The statement is "REMEMBER NO MAN IS A FAILURE WHO HAS FRIENDS".

"Respect Friendship".

They are like the shadow, which follows us until................................................

Taste Of Sacrifice!!!!!!!!!!!! Dads are not chesty

Have we ever sacrificed anything for our loved ones? Of course, if we want something from them. Technically, sacrifice is directly proportional to our wants from others. Why are we reluctant to sacrifice tiny things to our loved ones? By chance if someone sacrificed something for someone, why are they loquacious about it? Show off? Do they want to show their benevolence?

ARE THE ABOVE INTERPRETATIONS TRUE IN ALL THE CASES?

NO.

A small fable,

A 13yr old lad completed his 5th standard. One day, he saw some of the boys who are elder than him were playing Chess. On seeing them playing, the little boy also wanted to play chess. So, he approached his dad. He shouted, "Dad, I want a chess board". His dad who is gentle in nature bought him a chess board. After a few days, the boy somehow learnt to play chess.He beat all of his friends. The boy was hubris.Being hubris is not his fault. If we keenly noticed ourselves in our young age, we had the mentality that we have to win all the battles whoever the opponent is. Everyday, both(dad and son) were used to play chess. The boy won all the matches against his dad. One day, unfortunately the boy was in the situation of losing the game. He didn't know what to do? Dad saw the tears stagnant in the eyes of his adorable son. He didn't want his son to lose the game. Didn't want to hurt him. Didn't want to lower his confidence. His dad deliberately made a wrong move. The boy won the match. The boy didn't know about his dad deliberate move. He thought that he played well and he won the match.

Now tell, who was happy? The boy was happy but the dad was in ECSTASY. The story may be boring. But the message it delivers in the last is notable.

I'm not saying to the people to sacrifice their life or money. Just try to sacrifice something very tiny for your loved ones and make them feel happy. You will feel the euphoria.

At that moment that boy didn't noticed his dad tiny sacrifice. But he saw the eyes of his dad. Later, when he grown up he remembered those eyes and the moment, he felt proud of his dad.

Now the message part,

We managers, even though you know small things, just ask your subordinates or your boss. Hello boss "You are well versed in the above topic, can you please just explain me". They will surely explain you. This will create an impression in your boss or sub ordinate's mind that you are harmless and open-minded. In future, if they have any doubts, clarifications or even help they will approach you. You are breaking the barriers between you and them. This will lead to create rapport. This is my opinion. If possible, just try it once. I tried.

Make your loved ones happy for at least a few circumstances.