She is one cult

There's a wonderful Bosnian writer called Alexander Hayman has said 'Home is where people notice when you're not there'

Pulikurichi, a beautiful village in Tamilnadu with the population of around 300 with the literacy rate of 10%. Primary occupation was farming and secondary occupation was conducting 'kangroo courts'. She was the 6th child in her family. Her father was a teacher. It was a massive thing being a teacher in 1954. It was hardly 7 years of India's independence. When she was born, her father promised himself that to make her a first graduate in that village. All her siblings were not interested in studies and they loved taking care of the farmlands, cattles and home.

Contradictorily, she never interested in taking care of cattles, working in farmlands and handling household activities. She was an exceptional child in her entire family and a pampered one. She was one of the first women from her village commutating to the nearby village(slightly bigger than Pulikurchi) for her schooling. Fermented rice was the staple food in that village. It will be available in all the houses at point in time. You can enter any home and you can have. You can say this is the village belong to a single family bloodline. Marriage will be done within the family(not brother sister but with the cousins). She is an exception here too who got married to a guy outside her village.( This episode will be narrated in the later stage)

In villages, people wake up early around 4 am, brush their teeth , pack the fermented rice in the aluminum vessels and go straight to their fields and start their daily work. They return around 5 in the evening. Mostly they take bath in the evening either in the field or in the home built well. This is their routine. She was the one who changed the entire routine among the women in that village. She always takes bath twice in a day. One in the morning and in the evening. She is the only one washes her face with soap first thing in the morning when she woke up and last thing before she sleep. 

One of her elder sister's daughter told me that she was a cult in those days. She used only pears soap to wash her face. That particular soap is not available in her village. In order to buy that soap, one need to go to madurai(which was around 60 kms away from pulikurichi) No direct bus from that village. You need to walk 2-3 kms from pulikurchi to thiruchuli. Take a bus from Thiruchuli to aruppukottai (20 mins travel) and then Aruppukottai to madurai(1hr travel). Once a month her elder brother goes to madurai and buy that pears soap exclusively for her. There were times when the soap is over she wouldn't even wash her face. She became a cult for all the girls and women in the village on how to carry yourself, how to persuade your dreams and how to be aspirational.

To be continued....

Thoughts With No Meaning

Dan Brown in his book 'Origin' he mentioned 2 unsolved mysteries of mankind are what is the origin? And what is the destiny? I'm just in the midway. Hopefully i get the answer from him once I finish reading his book.

Like everyone i have lot of thoughts going on in my head at any point in time. Usually 90% will thoughts will evaporate like a camphor without any trace. But for the last 3-4 days like hailstones random thoughts hit my head with various emotions. Earlier whenever I try to focus on my thoughts sometimes i get clarity, sometime i get a gist of them and many a times my inner self says not worth thinking about so I just move on. This time I don't know understand these thoughts. The reason I'm writing this blog is i hope i get some clarity on the thoughts. 

4 days back we lost a good friend in my childhood gang. When I heard the news, 1st thing happened to me was, i went blank. No emotions(no remorse, no sympathy, no empathy, no sadness). Nothing at all. I don't know how to react. It never happened with me. I was the one who cried when emma stone died in the climax of amazing spiderman(now i ask myself really d******d?) I was the one who laugh when someone laughs without knowing the reason why the laugh is for. I was the one who expressed contempt when someone ask about the caste or religion. But in this situation i felt nothing. Then i started thinking that may be i was not that as close to him as i was with my other friends. 

This thought made me question again then why did you go blank? 2 yrs back when my college roomie committed suicide in his apartment, all i filled me with was anger no sympathy or no empathy. How dare he took his life leaving his parents and siblings? That too during covid time, parents could not even see his face one last time. He died as a loner in some unknown place in England. I did not experience such alternate emotion here. May be I'm neither of the sides. I went blank because I was not close to him but he was close to the people I was close to. I went blank because I empathise with my friends. Or maybe as a third person i empathise with his family members for their loss.  I'm afraid that i become a monk or something. I leave these thoughts to time. Let it decide.

I love taking advice but not giving one. I know 99% of my closed ones going to read this blog. I won't say these are not advices but my humble requests.

1) Priorities. Priorities. Priorities

2) When you feel low or under depression, you better call me or anyone whom you are comfortable with. I been in that situation, i sought help. I sought help of my parents, mentor and my friends. Nothing to be ashamed of. An introverted guy opened his mouth and told people how he was feeling. You are better than me.

3) Don't take anything for granted. Be humble and grateful. When you think about the gap between the origin and the destiny. It's tiny. It will disappear in a blink of an eye. If you love someone give more love without any expectations. If you don't like someone, leave it. 

A normal day in Summer 2002

It's 2002, i don't know why, there is no specific reason I'm fond of Summer season. Maybe because of the summer holidays i get or that's the only time I play chess with my dad or mom prepares a variety of eatables that i can eat for the whole summer or playing with my friends from dawn till dusk without experiencing tiredness. Even now, not having all the above luxury , beautiful summer brings me a sense of freedom, calmness and the feeling that I'm alive.

In those beautiful days, during summer holidays you sleep late(12am) and wake up early(6am) with the same energy as Goku has in dragon ball z. But now, out of 8hrs sleep if you lose 30 mins, you are done for the day. Your mind and body go crazy. This is the only time mom encourages you to have more sleep so that you won't be a hindrance in her morning routine. When you wake up and come out of the bedroom , first thing  you will be seeing is your dad reading newspaper in the hall. With one eye closed, you just go and sit near him. Suddenly you bring all your energy in opening the another eye to search for the remote. That's the point your dad hand over you the two sheets of newspaper to read. That's how I started the habit of reading. Reading starts in the sports page and ends in the same page.

In schools, your class teacher rarely bothers you, if you submit your assignments regularly on time. Like that, your parents never bother you if you have your breakfast, lunch and dinner on time. If you try to skip any of these or not having them on time then you are done. If anything goes wrong , mom will correlate the incident with the skipped meals incident. Eg., Mistakenly if I drop my mobile phone, mom will say "See you don't even has the strength to hold your mobilephone". So, never ever skip or avoid your meal.

At 9.00am, you hear your friends calling your name. All ready with the bats, stumps and cricket balls. Everyone have their own bicycle. My bicycle name is "Ambush". Dark brown color, sport model. Minimum 3 and maxmimum 4 can sit. I got this as a result of losing an another bicycle. Match at 9.30, against our school senior batch, we are short of 3 players. This is a weekly routine. Our team always short of players. But somehow we arrange 3 more players by 10am. Match starts , mostly we win sometimes senior wins. 

Those were the days showered in sun rays with the temperature of 33℃. Those we the days, fetch and drink water from any source nothing happens, fall anywhere nothing happen, eat anything nothing happens, bath anywhere nothing happens, speak anything nothing happens. Basically nothing happens. You just have sit in the flow, you will be carried like a leaf fallen into the river.

TO BE CONTINUED...

The Way

Note: I'm too lazy to do the proof reading. Bare with me for the grammatical or spelling mistakes

Many of us never notices the series similar events which happen in our daily life. When we sit and rewind all the events which happened in a specific time period, they convey something. Something which we never thought about it or we see them in a different perspective for quite sometime without realising what kind of perspective it is. One of my favourite professors relate the rule of 1/3rd with almost everything. I totally agree with the rule when it applied on anything or anyone. I always reluctant to agree whenever I applies on me. 1/3rd of the people like me 1/3rd don't and the remaining 1/3 are in-between(sometimes they do like me /sometimes they dont) Where on this why the 1/3rd of the people don't like. I have not done anything to them, i have not disturbed them then why?? My brain always curious to know. Till now it hasn't got the answer.

This bloody brain never wanted to know why 1/3rd like me. It makes it's own assumptions and happy with it. So that, it never has to accept that a set of real people don't like me. It always tries to be in the fairy tale world. 

It's in our DNA, to search of something which is beyond our understanding. We force ourselves to understand everything. If we couldn't , we make assumptions and put a pull stop. The assumptions which we make for the things which don't understand going to create a big impact in our actions. The way we deal with people, making decisions and react to a situation. 

I moved to a new town. It's been 2 months. Daily i have my lunch in a small place which is run by a couple in their 50s. I guess. This is only place they serve food that fills my stomach and the place where I get a free smile from the couple. I never spoken to them till now since day 1. I don't know why. It's weird know. All transactions will happen in sign languages. Only thing I didn't like about that guy in the beginning days, along with sambar he gave lots of vegetables. I don't eat vegetables in sambar. Like i said , we miss to notice the series of similar events happening in our life. One day i was standing in the queue to collect the food, i noticed that, he never gives vegetables to anyone. I started noticing everyday, he does the same. You know, whenever someone likes you , your brain never questions. I have a similar experience with a lady who sells coconut water along with her husband. Here she talks a lot to me. Usually her husband cuts coconut for everyone. When i go there, she snatch the sickle from his hand and starts cutting the coconut. She knows what kind of coconut i like and he shouts at his husband whenever he tries to give a plactic straw. She knows i m the only one customer who drinks coconut by tilting it without a straw. I always get a free coconut in the end. Initially i thought, its a business trick. Really people do all the gimmicks  for 30 bucks? I doubt 

Another incident, totally in the opposite horizon of the above incidents. I joined a new office, it's been 3 months. One my colleague does not like me. That's it. No explanation. See, how my brain functions. It's hard for it to accept someone don't like me. 

The point here is, people like/dislike people for no reasons. No need of trying to understand the reasons for the like or dislike. Just accept it. Feel those contrasting emotions. If like/dislike comes with a reason, then it will fade away. There will be some reasons will come to challenge the existing like/dislike. Always try to understand the way of their expression, whether it is love , hatred, gratitude or contempt. Once we understand the way others express things, your brain can't trick you with something.

Stars Never Stop Shining So Do You

One day

We met 

We smiled

We fought

We spoke

We kissed

We fell in love

We cared

We made love

We met parents

We met friends

We stayed together

We cooked

We played

We traveled

We walked holding hands

We planned for future

You said now

I said need time

We fought

We cried

We were in pain

No words exchanged

Neither of us was happy

Neither of us wanted to leave

We kept breaking one another 

And calling it love

We began with honesty

Let us end in the same way

We don't try to find a reason

Why we broke

We reminiscence our memories

Though we broke

Our love is eternal

He, She and Salsa

Hold me till the rain stops
Be my shadow when I'm alone
I feel lonely when it's dark
Don't know from where i got these feelings
We had the longest conversation
We had the longest silence
We had the longest laugh
We had the longest cry
Reminiscence our old memories
Led to my soul discoveries
Say something to my eyes
In the end its your choice
You're the beginning, you're the end
You're the only flower blossom in my land
You're the rain , you're the pain
Make my life shine
When you dance, when you glance
I fly to trance
Thank you salsa

-RamanathanS

YOU

You are the one I can see even in closed eyes
You are the one who smiles for all my lies
Things change in the world
When you touch me I never feel the cold
Stay with me till the moon lands
Walk with me by holding my hands

You are the one I can see even in closed eyes
You are the one who smiles for all my lies
Remember those eyes which looked me last
That moment made me frost
All the dramas ended on that Sunday
I made my mind not to play

You are the one I can see even in closed eyes
You are the one who smiles for all my lies
Still I talk to you
Still I roam with you
Still I dance with you
In virtual dreams, in virtual worlds

You are the one I can see even in closed eyes
You are the one who smiles for all my lies

I Remember You

I can't focus any longer

Drowning in my own dreams

I thought about those seconds today

The seconds we walked together

I remember those steps

Gifts which you gave me are still with me

My only friend

Lessons which you taught me are still with me

My only friend

People were leaving 

Sorry for not saying bye

I mean nothing

I have a heart full of thoughts which can't reveal it's feelings

While you were leaving my pride, you forget to see my eyes

You know nothing about my cry

My only friend

My sweetest friend

What have I done

I don't have time machine to reach those days

You are different in your own way

My only friend

I see your photos every now and then

That feels me like I'm in heaven

My sweetest friend......

Holding Back in Hell's Gate

Demons are riding on the thunder clouds
        Behind the hell, my soul is crying loud
Freaking red lights in the heaven's gate
        Paying for the pending sins in my fate
Exorcise me from the darkness
       Oh my lord give me forgiveness

This was sung by a soul waiting outside HELL

Everything Ends Once It RAINS

 

Everyone knows there is a bridge between the two extremes Birth and Death. We call that bridge as ‘Life’. The length of the bridge differs. No one can define it. The below passage is a comparison of an indefinable life with a cloud.

Life is like a floating cloud. It’s hard to define a cloud where it starts and ends. I can say it starts and ends somewhere in between the sky and the land. These clouds sometimes move alone or sometimes with their buddy clouds. In their journey, these clouds don’t know when they get the companionship. Whenever, they get some, they move along with them if not they move alone. Like that in the journey of life people get friends at some point of time. A few of the lucky friends continue their journey together. Most of them choose their own path.

These clouds from birth become the puppets for the wind. Whichever directions the wind is blowing, the clouds have to move in the same direction. They have no other choice. Dependability plays a vital role here. Are these clouds complaining about wind? No, absolutely not. They are not ashamed of their dependability. Without these wind, the clouds are nothing. They can't move anywhere. They are motionless. They can’t achieve their destiny. Their destiny is to become a rainfall. Unless a cool breeze touches them, they know they can’t achieve their destiny.

We people are also puppets for many things money, love, relationship, pride, man, woman, authority etc., there are innumerable things. Everyone destiny differs. Depends on their destiny, they choose their puppet master.

Some clouds achieve their destiny and some not. We people too. 

Volition

This song is about an athlete volition

Where am I leading? Where am i leading?

In this lunatic round

Where am I playing? Where am i playing?

In this crowded ground

Sins of my past, follow till last

Make me weak and break me like a twig

Hands are helping in the darkness

Can't hold them is my weakness

For me hope is like a sun

Rises during the first and sets for the rest

But it always be there, in me, with me

Till I stop revolving it

It's not my dream, it flows in my bloodstream
This is truly raw, will burn the useless straw

Will happen, will happen, will happen

Someday.........

-Ram

Terms-"Influence" and "Manipulation"

People differ, attitude differs, thought differs, and opinion differs. These are the terms I read in various newspaper, heard from some management thinkers and some friends. Technically speaking, these terms are absolutely true. Everything is in this world are different (Both tangible and intangible). They have certain unique things on their own. In this post I’m going to discuss about two terms 'Influence' and 'Manipulation'. Both are elusive terms.

When I was attending the Leadership training program in my company, the trainer he asked about what are the good traits of a Leader? When I was about to give an answer, someone in the hall already gave that same answer. In order to show my presence, suddenly I said "Leader should be a good manipulator". Everyone in the room started staring at me like I said an offensive word. Trainer asked me with his widely opened eyes, "Manipulator?” I said "Yes, sir". If you take the example of Adolf Hitler...He interrupted me and said "No, no. You are going out of topic."

Last night, I had a long discussion about these two terms with my friend. His opinion is both the terms are different. I asked him why? He tried to convince me by saying lots of thing but i wasn't convinced. We talked about sender's end and receiver's end. Sender is the guy who is manipulating or influencing. Receiver is the guy who gets manipulated or influenced. In the verge of discussion, he said "If the receiver is happy and feel proud of it then we can say he is influenced" and the vice verse "If the receiver is unhappy and not felling proud of it then we can say he is manipulated". Yeah, it makes sense. Some say 'influence' is a positive connotation and 'manipulation' is a negative connotation. This not at all making any sense to me because I’m saying both influence and manipulation are same in this present world.

When I posted I say 'Manipulation' and 'Influence' are same in Facebook. One of my friends commented like this "of course.. u can say anythin u want.. its fb n not xam paper..  Oh God, I don't know what to reply for this. Some friends said attitude differs. Some friends accepted my opinion.

I don't know which one is true. Is it same or different? In order to rationalize my statement “I say 'Manipulation' and 'Influence' are same” I have the following opinion

According to me nothing will come for free except parent's love. Influencing or manipulating other people means making other people to do something for them or to others or to himself or herself i.e., influencer or manipulator. Influence is same that of manipulation. Why do people influence someone to do something? Because they need some benefit out of it. If the people seek for benefit from others, that means they are manipulating others to do something. So, influence=manipulation. No one is going to waste their time to do something, if they are not getting anything out of it.

Hold The Breath

Giant thunders reached the ground

     Smoking grey clouds were all around

Cold winds howled in my ear

     Nothing saved me from here

When I reached for the truth

      Damn- not getting anything worth

Felt like drowning in a sea

     Missed the opportunities to see

Didn’t want to waste my life

     Learnt how to walk on a knife

It was an aisle between the life and the death

     To survive I held my breath

When I grabbed my golden fish

     I told myself, I shouted myself, I never gonna miss

Everything is in your head

     Contemplate yourself till the depth

It’s raining, it’s raining

See the solvent dissolving the darkness

It’s raining, it’s raining

See the white gates are opening

It’s raining, it’s raining

The day gonna come one day

The day gonna come one day

To distinguish the deviation

Word panic slows you down, rips your day

Dropping pain on your shoulders

Reminiscence your failures, impinge in your flesh

Sense the bell ringing in the top

Will show you the path, don’t be tired

Follow the omens that follow you

Pack your hopes, harden your wills

Reminiscence your failures, impinge in your flesh

The day gonna come one day

To distinguish the deviation

Watch the Puppet Master, carrying the torch

Approaching the arena with furious eyes,

To light the sleeping volcanoes

Demons at your back, grabbing your thoughts

Make you cry, make you scream, make you bleed

Reminiscence your failures, impinge in your flesh

This is the day you longing for in your life

This is the day you thinking in your dreams

You found the savior of your soul

Standing in the gate of the sky

Collect the souvenirs on your way

Till the horizon, till the heaven

You’re moving, you’re moving

My friend……..

It’s ALL about ‘CASH and CARRY’

‘CASH AND CARRY’-The name itself defines the business. Pay the CASH and CARRY the goods. This is a unique retail business model. For simple understanding, we can define it as a wholesale model. A wholesaler stocks and sells the goods in bulk. Cash and carry also follows the same. It also stocks and sells the goods in bulk. For more follow this link

http://businesschain.blogspot.in/2012/12/its-all-about-cash-and-carry.html

LAST “1440 HOURS”

Part-1

“I know I’m not ALONE”

It was 21^st March 2012; as usual I woke up from my bed at 6:00am. My roommate Raj was arranging something. He seemed to be busy. He was folding his shirts and arranging them in a large suitcase. I got excited and went near him. This was the second or third time I saw Raj arranging his clothes and other belongings inside a suitcase. Otherwise, most of his belongings, you could say all his belongings were scattered all around the places in his room. I asked Raj, “What happened?” Raj replied, “Bhai, I’m leaving home today. I’m already exhausted. Will you please help me in arranging my book inside this box?” For the sake of saying, I said, “Ok, I do”. It’s always a rare event in my B-School, students touch the books. In order to escape from Raj, I silently closed the door and came outside. I saw some of my batch mates were also busy with packing and getting NOC (No Objection Certificate).

I asked Amit who came out from his room, “Amit bhai, our last working day is on 10^th April 2012. But some of our batch mates are moving to their home. What happened? Amit laughed and responded slowly, “Machi, they got placed. Now it’s their choice whether to stay in hostel or not”. Then he moved towards the bathroom. I contemplated about myself for few seconds. Suddenly, I heard some familiar voice was calling me. Then, I realized that it was Raj’s voice. Raj called me to help in packing his bag. I went inside and helped him in packing his bag. Raj said in hurry, “Bhai, quick. I’m getting late for my flight”. Along with Raj, I lifted some of bags and both of them moved towards the bus stop. I sent Raj to the airport. While walking inside the campus, I thought about the day I and Raj met. I was laughing myself about the days I spent with Raj. I also asked myself, “How did the two years pass away?” On seeing the sky, I replied to myself that those two years were like the shadows which are formed for 2 seconds when the clouds covering the mighty sun. On the spur of the moment I stopped for a few seconds. At that time, I felt the fear of coming out of shadows. I was afraid of facing the sun. I felt alone at that point of time.

On the way to hostel, I saw some of my friends going for breakfast. I joined them and finished my breakfast. Now, my mental state had changed from loneliness to companionship. The next 10 days were also passed in the same way. Everyday anyone of my friends is leaving to his/her home. A few of my batch mates were even joined the companies from which they got the job. So, the change of state was frequent to me. This is the time all the students were feeling the heat. I too felt the same. Only a few of my batch mates realized that they were standing alone in critical stage and they had to take some steps to get out of the heat. Even though the remaining realized that they were in critical stage, they had the mind set like they were not alone. I belonged to this category. I thought that still some of my batch mates were remaining. So, I was not ALONE. It was a kind of secure situation. Didn’t realize about the future consequences. I felt the same. I felt safe when people around me also don’t have the job.

At this point of time, there were various kinds of judgments formed by the students. Those judgments were formed by different people in different mind state. TO BE CONTINUED.............

NOTE: The above names don't resemble anyone.

"Mankind Blue Sea"-"Animals Red Sea"

"BLUE- Earth's color". It represents pleasantness and calmness. Everyone likes blue color. It gives a certain kind of peacefulness to our soul. It makes us to think logically during uncertainties and helps us to take rational decisions. In short I can say BLUE makes humans to behave like humans.

"RED-Aggressive color". It represents love, violence, hostility etc.., Even though it represents love, most of the time it does not represent love. If we ask people to tell something in red, the first thing comes from their mouth is BLOOD. The intensity of red is high. It shows the character of aggression. It shows the character of enmity. In short I can say RED shows the aggressiveness in animals.

According to Darwin man came from an animal(monkey). It is very sad to say that the process becomes reversed now. "Humans transforming into Animals".

"Blue to Red-Humans to Animals". This transformation i.e., humans to animals is induced by something which most of us don't like. The element which of us don't like is "The Anger". The anger element induces this reaction and makes the humans to transform into the animals. This is like mixing the blood in the calm blue sea and turns the sea into an aggressive red sea. 

We people advise others not to get angry. But as everyone knows and still we disagree with the fact that we are hypocrites. We are ready to give advices but reluctant to accept advices. When I was playing hockey, I gave advices to my juniors not to get angry in the field. Because getting angry in the field will hurt our own team. But I never followed it. The same thing happened when I was working in group. Why does it happen? The reason is simple. When I get angry, I thought that my anger is reasonable. The mistake was not from my side. I was right at that moment. When others got angry, their anger was not reasonable. I would think that those people who got angry were insane. Really it's not true.

The reaction for the transformation of blue to red is very fast. It takes only a fraction of time. We people are reluctant to control that fraction of time. "Gentle breeze waves calmness among the villages. Violent storm destroys the villages". The main reason for the anger is the people forget about their senses at that point of time. If their senses are all in their control, they won’t get angry. Since the senses are not in control, they can't think at that moment and they lost their capability of thinking what will happen in future. Once their senses are in control after the anger episode, they feel sorry for it and they have to face the consequences.

Let’s see a real time example for an anger event. In the football world cup final match between France and Italy, a few seconds of wrath by France captain Zidane costs France a world cup. Everyone blamed Zidane for getting angry. No one thought why he was angry at that moment. Anger is common to all the living creatures in the world. The only difference between humans and animals is humans have the capability of control their senses during the point of anger but animals can't. 

It's always in human hands whether to react with anger and transform into animals or not to react with anger by controlling their senses and remains HUMANS

Downgrading "Causes and Consequences"

ALARM FOR THE INDIAN ECONOMY

For more follow this link below....

http://businesschain.blogspot.in/2012/04/downgrading-causes-and-consequences.html

"Make Yourself Hard"

One of my favourites 'Sir Alex Ferguson' the manager of the football club Manchester United said in many of his encounters with the press that all the players mature at the age of 24 or 25. Most of the players will be in top form at these ages. But some of the players will get matured before 24 like Messi, Christiano Ronaldo. Both of them are world class players. You know players will be in peak form when they get matured. This applies to the people in other professions. You can see a sudden rise in the curve when you draw a graph between career life time and performance.

I don't know how to define maturity exactly. It is very difficult to get matured in all the aspects of life. But, getting maturity in his/her owns profession is very important. See in the case of Messi and Christiano Ronaldo, they are hardcore professional football players. They got all the fame in football. I don't think so both of them matured in other aspects. Sometimes they act really weird inside the ground as well as outside. Some people say those are all some tactics in football. I don't believe it. I'm not criticizing them. Everyone have their own preference. I'm just taking a situation. They don't have control over their emotions.

The first step to get matured in the profession is to have control over the emotions regarding the profession. The profession may be a student or businessman or government officer or anything. According to me, profession means it the thing we can't get rid of it under any circumstances and at the same time it will support us financial. There is no right or wrong action in the profession. That means we can do whatever we want to do in order to achieve the objectives of the profession. I'm going to talk about two extremes a cop and a robber. One is ethical and other is unethical. Their objectives are different. One thing common between them is both are professionals in their own way.

According to me maturity means contemplating about their profession so that they can move fast in their career. When people get matured, they feel the change. They feel like that they have a backup to help them. It's like having a third hand. They are more confident before. They start believe themselves.

I have seen people who matured earlier in their life time. That's really good and I appreciate it. I read somewhere mostly women get matured earlier than men. It may be true. Sometimes people become matured due to spontaneous failure fission reaction (a chain of failures). When they fail, that embarrassment happened to them due to failure made them hard like rock so that no one can break them. Some are gifted naturally. 

Think, all boys seek for matured girls and all girls seek for matured boys, professors seek for matured students, coach seeks for matured players, boss seeks for matured sub-ordinate. Matured people only can handle uncertainties and they can perform under pressure.

According to Al Ries and Jack Trout, in business the first movers always have the advantage. Same thing, person who matures earlier always has the upper hand. She/he will have their hands nearer to the ripened fruit.

'Stars' are not "SMALL"

"Nothing is simple unless we try it and practice it". Philosophical but true. But "Everything is simple if you have right people". It's reality.

The hardest lesson I learnt in the last two days was "For finishing any project successfully, it's not about intelligent people or talented people. It's all about having people with PASSION, WILLINGNESS, DEDICATION, CONTROL and PERSUASION". If we have people who have all these five, they should be intelligent and talent. As Sun Tzu said “If you know about your enemies and yourself, no need to afraid of hundred battles. You can win 100 battles without a single loss". Like that, "If you know about your people and the project what you want to do, you will finish 100 projects without any failure".

It is very difficult to find people with all these five features. Why anyone work for us? This was the question striking my head again and again for the past two days. Is it money? Is it recognition? It may be. But, there is something apart from these two which drives people to work for us. I don't know what is it? That makes the people to follow you.

A day before, I had a situation during my college fest. I had to conduct a round in an event. It required minimum 10 people. I made arrangement for 10 people. But, unfortunately during that day of the fest due to some unavoidable circumstances 6 people were not there. I was hopeless. I didn't have any contingency plans. I didn't know what to do. I thought that why did I take responsibility for conducting that event. I just called some of my friends to come and work for the event. I don't believe that people will come and work for me. But what a miracle, they came and finished the work what I gave for them. I still don't understand why did they come? It may be because of the good relationship with them. The best part was they gave their 100% contribution.

The most vital part is the people who are with us should understand us and our emotions. There should not be any attitude clash. Both of their thinking should act in tandem. If we have right people, even though we get angry them, they won't reflect back the anger towards us. You receive only positive vibes from them. Right people in the sense means the skills of the people should correlate with the project skill. Along with it, we need the five elements that mentioned above. 

Another important thing, there is a vast difference between saying and doing. If you say in management language, there is a vast difference between planning and execution. Without planning we can't straightly get into execution part. Planning is like saying some weird thing we have to do this, that thing. That's all speaking in air. Sometimes it may like a framework in paper. But if we started doing those things, they don't align with the plan. There will be a mismatch. Anyone can plan. At least we can say something like do this, don't do this. It may fit or may not. Before two days, I was in planning side.  This execution part is GOD DAMN TUFF. 

My opinion is a planner may or mayn't be a good executor but an executor will be a good planner. An executor knows what will go wrong. What you say???????